What is Emotional Abuse?

I am creating this blog to document my personal journey of healing and hope after a long term relationship (over 20 years) dealing with emotional and sometimes physical abuse.  I want to share with women my personal experiences in hope that this may speak to the hearts of other women who may be experiencing the same types of circumstances that I faced and perhaps they can find a way to get out of their situation sooner than later. 

My abuser always convinced me that I was the problem.  Over time, you almost believe it.  The most difficult concept for me to come to grips with was the fact that I loved this person so much (ever since I was 17 years old) and how could someone I love be treating me so terribily.  Also, I kept trying to troubleshoot the situation and come up with solutions.  However, I finally realized that "it's not up to me, it's up to him". 

I would even convince myself that he appeared to be a good father and that was reason enough to stay in the relationship.  However, looking back on the situation, if I were to continue with this relationship, my two beautiful boys would learn to abuse their wives too.  Thus the cycle of abuse would continue on from generation to generation.  I want to share with you a fantastic article that I discovered recently and I hope it sheds some light on What Exactly is Emotional Abuse?  http://www.safeplaceministries.com

When I read this article, it described my situation perfectly.  A couple years back when I was in personal turmoil, I reached out to a local church who told me that I must remain marriaged to this man because he claimed to have become a Christian.  So, I listened and ended up right back where I started.  It took me a monumental amount of strength and courage to leave this situation.  I live in fear constantly and that's no way to live.  I have strong faith and that is what keeps me going, keeps me moving forward, hoping for a brighter future.  I have two beautiful children and a huge amount of support from my friends.  This first time I attempted to leave, I was too afraid and ashamed to talk to anyone.  If you are in the midst of leaving an abusive relations, please, reach out to your friends.  They will love and support you.

Comments

[Hannah]

Alot of churches dont understand abuse enough to be advising people. I'm sorry that happened to you.

Glad you got OUT!